Shame on You If “New Year, Same Me”

Before New Year Resolutions become a thing of the past and we all get use to typing and writing “2015”…

Pause…

Is it really 2015?

Definitely still not use to it…

Anyways, before that becomes the norm I just wanted to talk about the “New Year, New Me” craze… and the hate it receives.

If you don’t know what I’m talking about, a few years ago it became a thing to post tweets and statuses along the lines of “New Year, New Me” and such on various forms of social media.

Shortly following, in typical cynic-like fashion, it became a thing to make fun of these people and uncool to post “New Year, New Me”.

It was replaced with such phrases like: “New Year, Same Me”; “New Year, Old Me”; and other things promoting not changing and staying the same. These were intended to make fun of the original craze.

I dare you to do a twitter search of “New Year, Same Me”.

I actually saw this posted on my facebook: “Yall Actin Like 2015 A New Life . ‪#‎TakeASeat ‪#‎YouveBeenFatSince2012 ‪#‎YouveBeenBrokeLonger”.

Inspiring to say the least…

See, I understand the idea of being “real” and “staying true to who you are”, but I don’t understand why we are shunning and disheartening people who are trying to better themselves.

Individuals want to make changes in their life and become better people. Why should we look down at that or make fun of it? What’s so great about being stagnant?

Some want to lose weight. Others might want to secure a job. One may want to finally get over a break up.

I personally sat down at the end of 2014 and wrote down goals I wanted to accomplish in 2015: including working out more and keeping up with this blog better.

You’re welcome.

Regardless of what the situation is, these individuals want to become better versions of who they are or want to change drastically. However you look at it, we should be rooting for these people. “New Year, New Me” post shouldn’t be met with giggles and disapproval. It should be the opposite. These posts should be liked, shared and then met with comments along the lines of:

“I believe in you!”

“You can do it!”

“If you need an accountability partner, let me know.”

“You go Glen Coco!”

I’ve heard the argument, “Why wait to the beginning of the year? If people really wanted to make changes, they would have started whenever.”

I totally disagree. I have neither research nor statistics to back it up, but in my experiences, goals are best met when you have a starting date in mind, whether it is the first day of a week, month or a year. You spend time building a foundation and a plan of what you want to accomplish and how. Then when that “first” of whatever roles around, you’re ready to go… and there’s no better “first” than the “first” of the year.

I brought these thoughts to a colleague and she explained that people who say “New Year, New Me” and then make no radical changes in their lives are “fake”. I don’t think that justifies the hate that these posts receive though.

Yes, individuals are going to fall off their New Year’s Resolutions and not meet all their goals. It’s bound to happen. But posting about these people and perpetuating the thought of “not meeting goals” benefits no one. We shouldn’t hate on people for not reaching their goals. We should appreciate people for trying and then give support and offer advice on how they can reach it.

I highly doubt people who said they were going to work out every day in 2014, but then stopped halfway through the year, regret the six months they did work out and wish they never tried. I’d applaud them and definitely not say something along the lines of: “Yea. You said a whole year, but only did six months. You should never have tried. It’s a new year, but it’s not a new you.”

That’s a ludicrous thought.

As for being “fake” and not being true to who you are, I’d just like to say that if at the end of this year, someone comes up to me and says, “You’ve totally changed in this past year,” I’ll take it as a compliment. I’m trying to make positive changes in my lives, so if I change I know it’s for the better. And I’m sure it’s been said on a fortune cookie somewhere that if you aren’t getting better than you’re getting worse. There is no staying the same in a world that keeps spinning and everyone around us are moving.

Honestly, who wants to be at their high school reunion and hear, “Man it’s been fifteen years and it’s still the same you.”

Is there a greater insult?

We’re only nearly a week into this New Year so it’s not too late to drop a “New Year, Same Me” mantra or delete a subsequent status or tweet. Everyone should be on the “New Year, New Me” train because the destination is a better you.

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